There are always two sides to everything. Something can either be a tool to help you move forward, or a destructive obstacle that gets in your way every time.
The same can be said for the dreaded weight ‘scale’.
The scale, like all things, is a tool. And it’s only one tool, among many others, that will help determine your individual progress. Nothing more, and nothing less.
However, in reality, the scale for a lot of women is a source of mental torture, abuse and negative self talk. It is a way that many women have come to define who they are and their value in the world. Marketing, advertising, and media have brainwashed women to believe that a ‘certain’ number on the scale equates to a ‘certain’ level of beauty, self worth, desirability, and success. So as the advertising goes “If you weigh this much then you’re beautiful and successful, and if you don’t ‘ well lady, you have a lot of work to do’. And while you’re at it, buy my product because it will help get you there faster”.
This leads to many women thinking:
– Something is wrong with them
– They are not good enough and never will be
– They need to fix their body
– They aren’t amazing right now, just the way they are.
This marketing machine of guilt, manipulation, and playing on your vulnerability is why the health and fitness industry has become a billion dollar industry. Yet the level of obesity and overweightness is on the rise, and not declining. If these products were the answer, you think we would see a decrease in this wouldn’t we?
Listen, I’m not here to tell you to stop using the scale as a tool to measure your progress. But If you can’t do it in an objective, non- judgemental way, while looking other important variables (energy levels, your strength and fitness improvements, how you feel mentally) then don’t even go there. Spare yourself the mental torture, guilt, and abuse that you will likely inflict on yourself. Because guess what? You deserve more than that!
-You are amazing just the way you are
– You are not the number on a scale, or a certain dress size or clothes sizes. You are more than that.
– Your friends, family, and your boyfriend don’t care about the number on the scale, how many inches you lost last week, and whether or not you fit into that size 4. They care about you, that person who is funny, smart, loving, kind, loyal, honest and full of integrity, and understanding.
And if they do judge and measure you on those things, it may be time to re-evaluate those relationships and start surrounding yourself with people who empower you.
Think about it? Let’s say you reach your goal weight of 130lbs, and then the next day you got hit by a car and were a quadrapeligeic and couldn’t exercise ever again. Let’s say you gained all of your weight back , then what would happen? Would your friends and family love and admire you the same? Or would they judge you on your weight gain? Of course they wouldn’t, because you are still the same person ( anyone worth having in your life wouldn’t judge anyway). Even though your body may have changed, YOU are still that same person inside.
Do you follow?
But first, it all must start within you. How are you judging yourself? How are you treating yourself and talking to yourself on a daily basis? We tend to surround ourselves with other people who validate or confirm how we feel about ourselves.
Are you compassionate, kind, and loving? Or are you harsh, judgemental, and measuring your worth by the number on a scale that means nothing. This is something to really think about, and be honest with yourself over.
Always here to inspire and motivate you, David Macdonald and the Vitality Fitness Team.